There’s something called Transactional Analysis.
(This isn’t science class, so I won’t get into the complete science of it all. I’ll have you handle that on your downtime.)
You have 3 modes. The Parent, the Adult, and the Child. Your Parent and Child was programmed into you, from when you were 0-7 years old, based off your upbringing.
This process works in a few ways.
It’s either:
Adult → Adult
Parent → Parent
Parent → Child
Child → Parent
You have 2 types of Parent: Nurturing Parent, and a Critical Parent.
Nurturing is when you sound like you care.
Critical is when you sound like your demanding or nagging.
You have 4 types of Child: Natural Child, Rebellious Child, Professor Child, and Adaptive Child.
Natural is curious and playful.